October 4, 2018

Fun ways to involve your young children at every age!

I love to bake. I love my kids. I always daydreamed about the day I would bake with my kids. It would be perfection: We would laugh and smile and get flour in our hair and have chocolate smeared around our mouths. They would take turns cracking eggs and I’d show them how to fish the shells out using bigger shell pieces. They would sit on the counter and turn on the mixer and be amazed as liquid cream whipped up into mounds of fluffy, sweetened clouds of bliss.

It was going to be magical. I could not wait.

Baking is therapeutic to me. I love the quiet rhythm of scooping flour and sometimes sinking my hands into the flour bin and squeezing fistful of the soft powder just for fun. I didn’t know it was “sensory play” at the time, but as a kid I used to love dunking my hands into the huge bin of flour and indulging in the cool, soft, light and almost liquidy sensation it gave. I love the warm smell of cocoa powder and the stress-relieving powers of kneading a smooth dough under my palms (and the amazing smell of fresh bread baking in the house!). It calms me.

Baking with kids is not therapeutic to me. It can actually be pretty stressful. They get eggs everywhere, then lick it off their fingers (ACK! NO!!). They scoop flour, then spill it (ugh). They stir a batter, then tip over the bowl (nooo!!). They constantly beg, “MOMMY CAN I DO THAT MOMMY IT’S MY TURN MOMMY I WANT TO DO THAT!” They sneak bites of chocolate (mmMMmMMMmmm). They sniff at everything (ahhHHHhhHhhH). They squeal with delight when I let them lick freshly churned ice cream off the paddle (which also makes for the cutest chocolate-covered smiling faces!). They smile with closed eyes and then stop talking altogether when they finally get to bite into the freshly-baked cookies they’ve been smelling for the last fifteen minutes.

…Like the ones we had tonight. We used my favorite chocolate chip cookie recipe, and somehow it came out wrong. Maybe I made a measurement error while doubling the recipe (I should not have–it already makes a generous amount!). Maybe it was baking with a 2- and 4- year old. Maybe my daughter counted the wrong number of scoops of flour. Whatever the case, the cookies rose too much and were more cakey than chewy. Even as I scooped out hunks of dough to form into logs for freezing, I realized that some logs were really thick and meaty, and some were goopy and weak. They had not been mixed evenly, and now I had seven failed logs of cookie dough (!) to go through before I could make a proper batch again.


But the kids didn’t seem to notice, and Ben didn’t mind at all. When we sat down to milk and cookies, everyone smiled their contented, closed-eyes smiles and there was a chorus of “mmMMm” and “yummMmm” and “Mm, not bad!” around the table. Because really, who’s going to complain about fresh-baked cookies on a rainy day?

And this is always when I start again through the amnesia cycle and think to myself, “Wasn’t that fun? Let’s do it again!” And you know, it IS fun. For the kids. And I know they can’t wait to do it again. There is so much to experience even in cracking an egg. They’ve seen plenty of pictures of eggs, but to hold the cool egg in their palms and tap-tap-tap it against a bowl to crack-CRACK it is another thing. To feel the slimy egg goop on their hands and then watch it blend and disappear into the other ingredients is truly a unique experience. They are seeing, smelling, touching, hearing (and, unfortunately sometimes tasting… bleh!) all in one small little baking task.  Baking is such a multi-sensory experience for kids, and one they can actually eventually EAT. There is a special satisfaction that comes with making your own food, and it is such a wonderful thing for kids to create and enjoy the work of their hands.

There is also a ton of practical learning that can take place during a baking session with kids. There are endless opportunities to weave math skills in, such as counting, measuring (fractions!), weighing (units of measure), doubling recipes (multiplication, fractions), measuring time. There is also so much opportunity to introduce rich vocabulary as you describe the smells, textures, tastes, and sounds you hear. They will understand these words in a totally different way when they are actually engaged in hands-on, multi-sensory experiences where they apply. There is plenty of social learning, from taking turns (especially when siblings are involved) to cleanliness (wash yo hands!) to kindness, thoughtfulness, and sharing (cookies for all!). They practice self-control when you tell them not to lick the brownie batter with raw eggs in it, and they have plenty of opportunity practice taking things slowly and cleaning up after themselves.

Sure, JoEllen, that all sounds good, but my kid is only one. Is there really much he can do in the kitchen right now? Why, yes! Yes! There is! And there are plenty of ways to involve toddlers and preschoolers, too. So many that I made lists for you of ways to involve your 1-, 2-, 3-, 4-, and 5- year olds in the baking fun! If you don’t bake as often or can’t think of a single task that would seem successful with your child, then start at the ideas for one-year old children and slowly work your way up as your child proves herself more capable. For example, anyone can take a ripe, browned banana and squish it up in its own skin for banana bread! Fair warning, there’s a decent chance it will burst out of its skin and make a mess, but that’s part of the fun, too (for your kid, at least).

Please note that all of the suggested activities are really just suggestions and ideas based on what has worked for me and my kids. They might not be appropriate for the child(ren) you are working with, so please use your own discretion and knowledge of the child(ren) and their abilities to decide if it is an appropriate activity and adjust the activities as needed. Parents should be nearby and supervise all tasks closely!

If the idea of bringing your young child into the kitchen to bake with you seems daunting, you are not alone. I still shy away from baking with my kids sometimes because of all the potential mess and hazards, but I ultimately choose to do it because I think it is so beneficial and fun. I make it more manageable by choosing age-appropriate tasks for them to participate through. You might be surprised at how much they can do! I know I was tinkering away in the kitchen on my own when I was nine, and I hope to give my kids the same freedom when they get older. Until then, I’ll be here to guide them through the kitchen and hope to make great memories through it!

Fun and easy ways to involve your young kids in the baking fun!

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Age 0-1

This is a great time to introduce your child to different smells! One of our favorite children’s museums has an interactive exhibit where kids can squeeze and smell various items, such as crayons, rose petals, coffee, cinnamon, etc. This is what initially gave me the idea to waft various ingredients in front of my kids’ noses when they were too young to eat them. I would bring aromatic herbs, spices, and ingredients out for them to smell when I cooked and baked. They were especially intrigued when I waved cinnamon under their noses. Other great items would be cocoa powder, nutmeg, rosemary, lemon, orange zest, vanilla extract or vanilla beans, brown sugar, honey, coffee, tea, toasted nuts, etc.

Here are some fun hands-on ideas for your budding baby chef. He can even participate from the comfort of his high chair!

Age 2

At this age, toddlers are very curious and eager to get involved. They’re usually not too picky about what they’re doing as long as they get to do something! We have a Learning Tower for our kids to stand on when they watch or “help out” in the kitchen. Here are some ideas for how they do that:

Age 3

Their fine motor skills are definitely improving. You’ll want to give them more opportunities to strengthen their fingers, so let them squeeze, squeeze, squeeze everything they can!

Age 4

Four-year olds are capable of so much! Here are some fun ways to get them involved in the baking fun:

Age 5

I don’t actually have a five year old yet, but here are some things my daughter is able to do, or I think she’ll soon be able to do!

There are so many other possibilities, but these are the first ones that came to mind as I scrolled through the yummy desserts we enjoy making together. It goes without saying that a two year old can do all of the 0-1 year old activities as well, and a five year old would probably enjoy participating in all of the activities listed above! As cooler weather approaches, I hope you’ll find an excuse to pull the kids into the kitchen and enjoy a fun and messy baking day together!

What are some ways you involve your kids in the kitchen? Share in the comments below!


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6 responses to “Tips for Baking with Young Kids”

  1. Florence says:

    Cool post! I feel like baking with my girls again now!
    I even had baking playdates a couple times last year! Once it was with 3 toddlers (about 3 years old) and 2 adults (one – me – for the cake making and the other for the hand washing): busy, but fun and pretty clean and tidy. The second time was in a smaller kitchen, with 4 or 5 kids ranging from 2 to 4 years old, and 3 or 4 adults, and that was waaay too many adults in the room and too many kids around the table.
    By the way I have NO problems with eggs, so my daughter has been cracking eggs with help since she was maybe 2 and a half, and on her own and really well just around 4 years old I guess.
    Licking the raw batter off our fingers is the main event while we’re baking in *my* family! Yum!!
    Thanks again for posting!

    • joellen says:

      Wow, baking playdates sounds really ambitious! Haha I know a lot of people are totally cool with eggs. I’m fine with them raw for myself, but I get all crazy about them when it comes to my kids consuming them raw. I wish I didn’t care, licking the batter is so delicious and fun!!! Thanks for sharing! =D

  2. S.K. says:

    I just baked with V earlier this week! Her music teacher asked us to bring a sweet potato pie to class (related to a song). I only asked her to help mix the ingredients in the bowl, but she already had fun with that 🙂

    • joellen says:

      Wow, I wanna attend music class that involves baking, too! How fun! Glad you two could make that memory =D!

  3. Amanda says:

    Thanks for the reminder of how valuable the experience of baking is for kids! It’s so stressful for me that we usually stick to box mixes and even that is infrequent. Looks like it’s time to pull out some of my favorite simple recipes again.

    • joellen says:

      I totally hear ya, but I think the kids love it so much and remember it better than most activities we do with them. Something about food + family really sticks! Hope you have more fun than stress baking with your kiddos!